I barely told anyone. I have always been terrified of disappointing my parents. The experience of having an abortion caused me a lot of trauma. And I can never talk to her about anything. I want to find my real dad. She left him after I was born and she won't let me ask questions about him but people know. It is not uncommon, with adolescents, for doctors to make a deal like, "I won't tell your parents anything you don't want me to tell them, unless there's a serious or. If I would try to tell her anything that she said or did that hurt me, I would be told I was”rehashing the past” and to just move on or she would straight up deny it. She.