And last but by no means least, consent is a key part of having sex. Whether it's your first time or your hundredth time, you must both agree to take part in any form. If you're feeling nervous about having sexual thoughts or being ready to have sex, you may want to talk to someone you trust. This could be a. Make sure you're aroused. Take your time with sex. Start by kissing, touching each other, saying nice things to. Regular readers may have read comments recently from older women who are enjoying sex more and more the older they become. One reader.