In the erect state, the penis feels very tight, with men reporting increasing levels The glans penis can remain flaccid unlike a normal erection. It is your head and your heart that turn you on (or off). So, the reason why we men lose our erection when a woman asks us to wear a Wear a condom on your soft penis, and then stimulate your penis so that it becomes hard. Although I am aroused, I am unable to sustain the erection and it's too soft for penetration. I masturbate frequently and my penis has lost sensation in its head. Erectile dysfunction (ED) happens when you can't get or maintain an erection. a hard penis shaft with soft head; pain or throbbing sensations in your penis.