But our mutual acquaintance was a pastor I looked up to, and we're supposed to be attracted to someone we're dating right? Twenty years later, it's easy to see. Dating Someone You're Not Physically Attracted To. My first boyfriend cheated on me. I found out from his brother, who was a good friend of. Like getting a tattoo with someone's name on your back and breaking up four months As noted dating guru David DeAngelo says, “Attraction is not a choice”. By dating someone you're not physically attracted to, you're likely to feel a lot less pressure to 'perform' and you can just be yourself and chill.